Stubborn women fail in their marriages, and even in their relationships with relatives.

Women lack emotional intelligence and flexibility in dealing with people around them. They face the biggest failures in their marriages and their lives. Why?

She enters into an egoistic tug of war with her husband. She prefers the voice of her ego to try to overcome him. In fact, she fails before the ego of her husband and those who are around her. Men become more stubborn in front of a stubborn wife and sister. They become more gentle in front of a submissive woman.

A headstrong woman thinks that she can win by insisting on her opinion. She can stand in front of any opposition. She forgets that even if she wins through her obstinacy, she loses the heart that loved and cared for her.

Many narrations and wise proverbs in all the cultures have praised an easy-going, soft, friendly, patient and enduring woman. The Messenger (peace and blessings be on him) praised a woman who respects her husband. The Companions also recommended such a woman. She speaks with softness and wisdom. In turn, he will love her and never leave her.

The woman will obey her husband and stoop to let the storm pass. She is the wise, rational woman. She thrives and holds the family together. The woman who stands like an unyielding dry stick is the one who breaks, suffering irreparable damage.

The uncompromising woman clings to her opinion. She tries to constantly perpetuate the illusion of her victory. She believes: I win and you lose. She insists: I am right and you are wrong. Such a woman destroys herself before destroying others. And she lives a life of sorrowful despondency in this world and thereafter.

From my experiences in marital counseling, I found out that mulish women end up in divorce. And bitterly fail in their family and social life. The even end up destroying her own father’s family and his siblings’

A bedouin Arab woman gave advice to her daughter on her wedding day. Successful women consider it the best advice for a woman. She said: “Be his slave……and surely he becomes your imminent slave”.

“Men are kind, generous and benevolent, but a stubborn, foolish woman turns them into enemies.

In other words, the stubbornness of a woman makes a man ten times more stubborn than her.

In these days of feminism and female affirmative action, I notice issues with how young women perceive their spouse relationships. Ego and impatience seriously affect these perceptions. Ladies are not willing to work on their inherent flaws. They believe the man should be the one to adjust to their own idiosyncrasies.

I personally think the above tips work. Any woman who wants to make a success of her marriage will do well to follow them.

Introduction: In today’s discourse on relationships, particularly marriage, people often misinterpret the concept of submission. This is especially true in the context of modern feminism. This post aims to explore traditional wisdom about the roles of women in marriage. This perspective has been shared across various cultures and religious teachings.

The Essence of Submission:

Cultural and Religious Perspectives: Many cultures and religious texts have praised the virtues of a woman who is submissive. This is not about subservience, but about flexibility, patience, and emotional intelligence in relationships. Examples include the advice given by Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him). He advised to treat husbands with respect and kindness. This, in turn, fosters love and stability in the marriage.

The Bedouin Woman’s Wisdom: An old Arab proverb advises, “Be his slave, and surely he becomes your imminent slave.” This shows how mutual respect and submission can create a harmonious relationship. Both partners feel valued and cared for.

The Pitfalls of Stubbornness:

Ego and Marital Discord: A stubborn or headstrong woman might engage in an egoistic tug-of-war. This behavior often causes both partners to harden their positions. This can result in a marriage where love and understanding are overshadowed by conflict.

Impact on Relationships: Marital counseling shows that women who are inflexible often face higher rates of divorce. They also experience estrangement from family. This stubbornness can extend beyond the marriage, affecting relationships with relatives, leading to a broader social fallout.

Why Submission is Strength:

Emotional Intelligence: Submission here does not mean losing one’s identity or voice. Instead, it involves choosing battles wisely and prioritizing peace. It uses emotional intelligence to foster a loving environment.

Long-term Relationship Success: Women who adapt this approach tend to experience stronger, more resilient marriages. They manage to keep the family unit intact, ensuring love, respect, and mutual support.

Soft Power: This type of power is the ability to influence and guide through kindness, patience, and understanding. It does not rely on confrontation or domination. This approach is often described as ‘soft power’ in leadership. It can be equally effective in personal relationships.

Modern Challenges:

Feminism and Misunderstanding: In the era of modern feminism, submission is often equated with weakness or oppression. This view can lead to misunderstandings about roles in marriage. This often results in young women being encouraged to assert themselves. They need to balance this with empathy and flexibility for marital harmony.

Advice for Today’s Women: Understand that submission in marriage isn’t about giving up rights or dignity. It is about building a partnership where both can thrive. Women are encouraged to reflect on their own behaviors. They should consider how they contribute to marital success through patience and adaptability.

Conclusion:

The strength of a woman lies not in her stubbornness but in her ability to be flexible, empathetic, and wise. Women should have their own views. They should stand up for themselves when necessary. But it suggests a strategic approach to marital success where both partners feel respected and loved.

Learn or Perish: In the context of marriage, balancing one’s ego with the relationship’s needs is crucial. This learning is essential. It can mean the difference between a thriving family and one that falls apart.

Remember: A stubborn woman makes a man ten times more stubborn. Yet, a wise woman can transform the dynamics of her marriage. She can create a relationship of mutual respect and love.