A woman is said to be too complicated, difficult to please and unable to ascertain what she truly wants. Hence it has been said countless times that a woman can say YES while she really wants to say NO. Indeed what a confused and unstable specie. Oh woman what do you really want?

Maybe a little trace back to the origin of woman will help us ascertain what a woman really wants. Genesis 2 vs 18[1] says “And the Lord God said, it is not good that the man should be alone, I will make him a help meet for him”.  It is important to state here that a woman wasn’t created immediately God conceived the thought of creating her rather God had to be absolutely sure that a woman is needed which he confirmed by bringing other animals to see what Adam will name them and how he relates with them. In the process of naming the animals, God took note of Adam’s countenance which confirmed that a woman is needed at that moment. This confirms to us that God gives us what is needed and not what is wanted. Later in the same chapter under verse 22, woman was created and brought to Adam who then named her “woman” because she has the attributes Adam has and was taken out of Man.

After the fall of mankind, God in his judgment in Genesis 3 vs 16b, declared that “a woman’s desire will be her husband and he will rule over her”. The ruling aspect of a man over a woman will not be discussed here because the major focus of this article is to ascertain what a woman really wants.

Having laid this foundation, it is therefore strongly argued that what a woman really want are GOD and a MAN.  As funny as this may sound, these two beings are what a woman considers most important in her life. Firstly a woman craves to have a relationship with God who she devotes her time and love for because she met God first before she was brought to man. This is why almost all religions have women who are more devoted than the men. A woman responds faster to God’s call than a man. There’s always a longing to be close to God in a woman, that’s why praying is considered as an attribute of a woman. No wonder men don’t joke with the prayers of their wives and mothers.

Although a woman has been made to desire a man yet it’s unfortunate that men are yet to really know what women want from them. I will try as much as possible to use Adam as the case study to illustrate further how to solve this issue.

Things to learn from Adam

1. Appreciation: every woman wants to be appreciated by her man no matter how small it looks. Adam saw Eve and exclaimed  “wow this is who I have been searching and longing all these years to meet”. What do you think might have happened to Eve on hearing those sweet words, your guess is as right as mine. Eve must have smiled, felt secured and wanted. Every time a woman is appreciated by a man, it leaves her with a sense of feeling wanted. A woman is  naturally attracted to a man who showers her with praises than one who hardly appreciate her, for a woman is moved by what she hears than what she sees.
2. Attention: there’s nothing as frustrating to a woman as having a man who doesn’t pay attention to her. A woman wants attention if possible 100percent attention of her man because she has been wired like that. This is where most men miss it, they get so busy hustling to get money to shower on a woman and neglect that she needs more than the gifts he is offering. Funny how little things count for women more than it counts for men. Quick tip for men “Never be too busy for your woman because it pushes her to a world of herself filled with sadness and dissatisfaction”. Attention gives a woman the feeling that she belongs to the man which makes her very much secured around him.
3. Affection: it is in the place of a man to love his woman. This is why, it is usually difficult for a man to love a woman who loved him first but very easy for a woman to respond to a man who loved her first. Love is not only demonstrated in words but also in gifts. You can’t love without giving but can give without loving.Quick tip for men ” If possible no day should pass without you telling your woman how much, you love her. Always remind her”.
4. Security/Protection: every woman is naturally drawn to men who can protect them from harm and unseen misfortunes. Therefore shall a man leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife and they shall be one flesh. This simply means that a woman becomes part of a man the moment they find each other and agree to stay together. So a man will have to shield his woman from internal harm first which means not allowing his own family to harm his woman by way of assault or physical harm because he is now one flesh with his woman.
5. Comfort: it is natural for a woman is confine in a man than she can confine in her follow woman. No wonder most women have best friends who are men than they have women as best friends this is because once a woman finds a man comfortable to talk to, she becomes drawn to the man. Women are made to talk. When the serpent engaged Eve and questioned her whether God instructed her not to eat every tree of the garden? Which ordinarily should have been answered with a “No, God didn’t say so” Eve went further to start explaining the instructions of God which lingered the conversation with the serpent until it succeeded in making Eve to eat the fruit of knowledge.
6. Drive-force: Money is good and a defence no doubt but most women are now looking beyond a man’s money. They are in need of men who will push them to become better than they were. Men who can help them take life changing decisions in business and career. Most men now kills their women’s dream and still expect them to be happy. Quick tip for men “Stop making your woman to live your dream. Let her be who she wants to be”.