I don’t like men, I only love one particular man. And I feel very much connected to him. People talk about cheating and those moments where they lose themselves to their significant other. Some get swayed by another person outside their relationship. I know it can’t happen to me. My man has me wrapped around his fingers. Although he has many flaws that could break me, certain things compensate for them.
When people talk about Soft Spots in romance, they simply refer to the emotional, tender moments and attributes that make them feel loved, vulnerable, connected and loved.
They vary depending on personal preferences, but some common Spots in romance include:
- Surprising with a gesture that shows you’ve been paying attention to their preferences or something they love. ” You could get them things that match the colors they love, write them a poem, sing their praises, surprise them with their favorite dishes at work during lunch hour. Anything pleases men if it’s meaningful and genuine”
- Having conversations that goes beyond surface-level talk, where both partners share dreams, vulnerabilities, fears, and desires strengthens your bond.
“I sometimes settle my man down while lying with him or reacting to his messages, telling him how much I respect him and I am proud of his strength, resilience and compassion for what he does. Identifying that regardless of how strong he appears I know he people might be superficial around him and he must notice but I don’t care about his flaws and love him dearly” that makes him relax around me no matter what he has going on at the moment. He opens up, cuddles me, and even spoils me with sweet gestures. - Simple gestures such as making your partners favorite meal, holding hands, caressing, singing for them and offering support when they are feeling down can be incredibly touching.
- One thing that brings grate comfort is physical touch. Something as simple as a gentle touch, on the arm, or a hug, can bring comfort and closeness with your partner.
“No matter how tensed I am, a warm hug, caress of my hands, kiss on the forehead completely undos me and calms me” - Saying love declarations, saying words of encouragement or cheering and sincere compliments melts hearts!
“Most times, when I can’t concentrate on work or having a block, merely recalling were my man tells me how crazy he I make him feel, how proud he is about me, how nicely I walk and talk… are all the motivation I need to get things done” - Communicating without words like when you share a look and both know exactly how the other feels, there’s something magically special about silent communication.
- Couples also enjoy sharing meaningful but spontaneous actions communicated without words, but done all the same. It’s the spice you share with that person that is understood by the both of you and you never share with other people. It’s like a secret.
Everyone has different soft spots. However, they revolve around feeling appreciated, being seen, and finding emotional safety in the relationship.